Love RELATIONSHIPS of an Ultimate Simp

I went to the Valentines mixer in 2017 on Valentines Day at the Gite Gallery in Houston and there were 90 women and 8 men. It was basically a set up for a captive audience for the businesspeople to try to sell a dating site, and a travel agency and talk to the women about how they can get a man. I’m sorry, I believe their approach was very wrong. There was no music, not enough chairs and only champagne.One of the most exciting things was when I fell down a flight of steps with a drink in my hand on my face and did not spill a drop as I fell down the stairs. But that was one of the most exciting events of the evening. I hear so many relationship complaints from women. Please accept that women are just as evil and treacherous as men can be and, in many cases, can be more disruptive being there are more women.

Love is the greatest necessity to survival. Humankind will do almost anything in the pursuit of love or an imagination of what they perceive to be love.

Strength, Power, Treachery and Deceit can all be rolled under the pursuit of love. Love is an emotion that when it starts rolling is hard to control. It is not just a human trait, as other mammals show signs of its occurrence. Other mammals show signs of loyalty, mating rituals and bonding. For love men and women have shown the capacity to change the world.

What is love? It is a heartfelt spiritual feeling that makes you feel powerful and mystical. The depths of love cannot be quantified or qualified. It comes from the deepest recesses of the power of God.

What do most ladies say they want in a man their attracted too. First the carnal attributes of height and a nice body, then a six-figure salary and the status of respect.

Men say they want a woman who looks good, who knows how to be feminine, and be down with their program.

This expectation for woman is not equated with the actual facts. Only 5% of men make a salary of 100000 or more. Less than that in the Black Community.

A Ladies career is not necessarily an attraction for a man. It is a benefit to her but does not factor in making her more attractive to a man. Many ladies have a problem understanding this.I hear ladies say they will not prop up or help support a man to grow, it’s not their job. They want a man already totally established but for most men if you weren’t there for the struggle what does he have to connect with you. There are a million beautiful women, and the question becomes what separates you from the rest? Many ladies believe the power of pussy allows them to do whatever they want and have power in a relationship but not for a mature man.  Pussy is just another thing. So many women say I will only accept a tall man, a bright skin man or only a man making six figures which often may set the women up to be used and abused because no man is automatically going to fit their fantasy standard : The criteria most women want in a man attributes to maybe only 5% of all men. Men are not products in an assembly line department store. We are emotional creatures who can be good or bad in given a situation.

There are certain traditions that have always been a part of relationships but in today’s society modern relationships have changed. The man being responsible to pay the bills was a given in all relationships, but that expectation is changing. Given the high cost of economics and survival and the changing role of women in society. More relationships are critically and effectively questioning the suitability of a 50/ 50 relationship or other numerical distribution of family resources in relationships today. The biggest difference today is women demand more control of their future and don’t want to depend on a man. Black women especially believe they are smarter, stronger and more equipped than their male counterparts and will quote “not settle”. Most or many black women are unwilling to compromise in anyway. The modern women number one wants power in relationships. No longer does she want to totally depend on the man. She wants her own money and her own ability to decide. Often this conflicts the expectations she has for the men in her life. The man is expected to be the protector and provider. The power dynamic is the heart of the conflict in modern relationships.

A good lady friend of mine said she was looking for a roommate. I agreed to room with her, she was ecstatic. However, I knew that if we were to make it effective, the operations and how things would function had to be clarified. Previously, when she first bought her expensive house, I told her it was going to be extremely difficult for her to attract a high value male partner to stay in her house. Men understand when a lady has power, they can become very impractical and impatient and have a hard time compromising.We are all products of choices we all choose partners that appeal to us and deny some that like us because they don’t appeal to us.

The Love gurus have an interesting take on relationships, but I do not totally think they have an accurate reflection of relationships in this modern era. Most of the gurus blame the women and feminism for the decline in relationships. However, it is not that simple. Women have adjusted to the changing world around them and a part of that changing world was realizing that Black men were, in many cases, incapable of providing the lifestyle they desired. In many cases circumstances would not allow black men to provide a safe and secure lifestyle. Black women were, like black men were limited in their opportunities for decades, and many had to strike out for opportunities in other ways. It may have been someone of another race who could take care of them from a side position or other ways.  Of course, throughout slavery and the Jim crow system the black woman was torn between the brutality of the system she was trying to survive and having the opportunity to learn and grow with a black man. Despite these hardships of survival, the black family still survived and even flourished only starting to decline in the 70s and 80s, when the government systems like Cointel pro, The Kerner commission and the welfare system started pitting the black women as more of an adversary to the black man. Many have heard the stories of a women who could not have a man living in the house if she were going to collect her food stamps, welfare or other types of Government assistance. It is very understandable the black women built up a greater survival instinct. In many cases that black women had to learn to be more independent than women of other races. She had to learn to survive in many cases, but that learned survival did not necessarily help black relationships, and in many cases, it caused greater friction between the black man who did not see his value being paramount in many relationships. In this backdrop the relationship gurus of the age made many interesting arguments and pronouncements.

The Number 1 relationship guru was Kevin Samuels who passed in 2023. Kevin Samuels' principles on relationships advice emphasized the importance of financial success, social status, and discipline in men, while also advocating for women to embrace femininity, cooperate in relationships, and prioritize long-term relationships or marriage. Samuels encouraged men to focus on building their careers, dressing well, and improving themselves physically and mentally to increase their value in the dating and business world. He also criticized the black community for failing to meet traditional values, such as the high out-of-wedlock birth rate and significantly lower marriage rate compared to other racial groups in the United States.  Kevin Samuels was criticized by women for his controversial views on relationships and comments on Black women. His videos often featured blunt and unfiltered opinions, which sparked debates and polarized opinions. Some women celebrated his death, while others expressed relief without rejoicing, indicating a stark divide in reactions. Samuels' comments included derogatory remarks about women's appearance, age, and financial stability, which many found offensive. His approach to relationship advice was criticized for being harsh, demeaning, or reinforcing outdated gender roles. Despite these criticisms, some of his supporters defended him as a truth-teller who provided tough love, particularly to black men and women.

Pearl Talk is a female guru that seems to be very frustrated with the market and often her fellow ladies and men’s inability to overcome their shenanigans.

Pearl Talks offers a critical analysis of contemporary relationships, advocating for a reassessment of expectations and power dynamics within partnerships. She frequently raises questions about the advantages of marriage for men, noting that the perceived incentives may be limited while potential risks are significant. The discussions regularly address the commodification of love and the escalating demands placed on couples, which can contribute to dissatisfaction and conflict. Pearl's perspectives are informed by her personal experiences and observations, establishing her as an influential contributor to the discourse on modern love and relationships.

Myron from Sudan on MODERN Delusional podcast is one of the hardest and strictest relationship gurus. Myron's opinions on modern delusional views are often characterized by a subjective and often heated debate.

His discussions often revolve around the idea that modern women are more delusional, implying a lack of understanding or empathy towards their perspectives. 

He often says women should just shut up and obey because seldom they have anything interesting to say. He does not believe they really should have a vote.

The guru on No Fugazee David Cooley is probably the most reasonable and realistic I have seen. He goes by the principles of God, Man, women, child. He is adamant that a woman alone cannot properly raise a boy into a man. He also shows the example that many women break off the marriage relationship because they individually are not happy and he makes the point that marriage is supposed to be till death do us part not a feel good all the time arrangement. He shows the example for the most part men stay and endure because the mission is higher in taking care of a family. Miss Jebadiah Blue has also been critical of women.

Scott Galloway an academic, author, podcast host, and entrepreneur has made significant reflections into the dating and relationships genre.. Galloway has highlighted the growing need for relationships among men. He argues that men are increasingly facing social isolation, a phenomenon that has profound implications for mental health and overall well-being. Galloway points out that while women also experience loneliness, the depth of connection and support networks typically differs between genders. The decline in romantic relationships among men is alarming, as these relationships often serve as a critical source of emotional support. Without such connections, many men find themselves struggling to cope with feelings of isolation. Galloway emphasizes that men need to take responsibility for their relationships and use their sex drive to become better men. He also discusses the impact of technology, online dating, and economic anxiety on male identity and the importance of strong social ties for mental health. 

I would consider myself the ultimate simp. I fell hard for a women bringing flowers and experienced early some stalking tendencies. I was a virgin until 21 years of age.  Previously looking back, I had many opportunities, but I was very immature and shy in my understanding of girls. In high school while skipping class with a group of students A girl stated she wanted to smoke and give some head I had no idea what she was talking about. My inexperience and shyness around women continued into college. Toward the end of college, my curiosity became overwhelming and I went out on an excursion on Jenson Street in Houston. I had an experience with my first girl of the evening. Those excursions became sort of a training ground. I learned a lot from those ladies about the give and take of relationships. Mostly they would do anything for money. But if you hold out and time it right you can often get what you want. Overtime I learned enough to handle myself in a traditional relationship. However, little did I realize the traditional relationships could be filled with issues, problems and crazy realities. I was married for ten years and had three beautiful kids, but the unrelenting stressful situation continued in my marriage until I felt it necessary to file for and be granted a divorce. I continued to struggle to survive, mostly raising my three kids by myself.  I developed a relationship with one of the girls from my old night life world. She moved in, helped with my kids and was often there when I needed her. However, our relationship had many ups and downs. Of course, when the money was good, life was good, when we had to struggle the relationship struggled. She would go back and forth between myself and an old boyfriend. I allowed it I was the ultimate simp.

Eventually the cycle became tired and unfulfilling. My mind clicked that I wanted legacy and more and she wanted to go in a different direction.  If you live long enough you come to the reality that you can never live just to try to please another. It is unfulfilling and not living up to Gods purpose. That is what finally sunk in.  I can’t tell a man to never be a Simp. It might be ok for his circumstances for a period. It was for me, at a critical time that women helped me raise my kids and provided emotional and sexual support. I’m not sure what would have happened had she not been there. Only the people involved can truly evaluate the situation and decide if it works for them. However, for things to work long term the people involved must have respect for each other as their core. They must be prepared to maintain that core of respect during hard times, change in status and any economic inequality that may arise. In other words, staying together must be very important and something they will both fight for. In this day and age, it is sometimes hard to find and harder to maintain good relationships.

Men or women neither of us can complain. We make our choices. Only time we can complain is when someone lies or tries to use intimidation or violence to get their way. If we cannot find someone that meets our integrity and appeals to us then maybe it’s ok to learn to live with our self alone with our health, nature and God and be thankful. That is the great journey But love and a good relationship is like gold. If you can find one you have found a great thing.

I have heard many women say they want a man that can handle them. What do they mean by that? Essentially, they are saying they want a man that can influence them to behave correctly. In other words, they are not mature enough to do it on their own. This special man will have the qualities and features interacting with them that will help them to be better women they believe.

Is this the same as a Man needing a good woman to be all he can be? No it is not A mature man can achieve a certain amount of success without a woman. A good woman can help him grow to much higher heights. However, this woman who has to be handled is not mature and is totally dependent on the aspirations and benevolence of the man.

On her own she may be lost and feel low self-esteem. Her esteem is totally tied to the man she feels has the qualities and features to handle her.

Many times, these ladies end up in abusive relationships because they have not worked enough on building their own self-esteem as opposed to looking for and trying to find someone to handle them. An Independent spiritual and emotionally mature woman looks for a partner she can work with whom has qualities of integrity, perseverance and intelligent wisdom.

A woman seeking someone to handle her wants a quick fix, someone who has the influence to make her act and do the right thing when she can’t do it on her own. There are plenty of immature men who are boys also. They prey on women who seek a physical or emotional fantasy. These men never achieve great things. When your goal is taking advantage of a women you don’t have time or energy to achieve great things.

The first and most important attribute is to build your own self-love and self-esteem and self-intelligence that can withstand any emotional and relationship storm. If you don’t work on self, you can find yourself at 40 or 50 feeling traumatized and sick, hoping someone will come along and help take care of you. What we should always consider is what do we want out of life or what our mission is. What do we believe is our purpose why we are here on this earth. If we have this as our guide for life, we can always be ok whether we find love or not